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CKG Lyrics – by Anietie Bature

Posted on: March 8, 2019 |

COVENANT KEEPING GOD Oh… Verse: Every morning when I wake Lord I find your mercy Every time I call your name I know you’ll answer me When I fall I know you’ll pick me up When I’m weak I know you’ll be my strength I can always count on y...

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The Stairs

Posted on: January 26, 2019 |

New house, new rules for everyone’s safety and general wellbeing; one of them – no running on the stairs. Every time we said this, they just replied, ‘Yes Mummy’ or ‘Yes Daddy’. Nat disobeys because he thinks he’s old enough and has...

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The Fire

Posted on: January 19, 2019 |

Shana decided to hang out with two friends of hers one evening in a zoo embedded in an office complex. The ground floor was set like a garden and the animals were in elevated cages designed to look and feel like their natural habitats. Quite an archi...

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The Pot

Posted on: January 12, 2019 |

The festivities were still on. Everyone was joyful and merry. Friends, family, neighbors, strangers – people everywhere… plus our version of winter – Harmattan – which was just beginning to show up. Perfect weather. Christmas holidays are jus...

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Just Ask

Posted on: January 6, 2019 |

‘I really hate it when Mike does this. He always comes to report to you because he knows you’ll make things alright for him.’ This was Nat’s comment following my resolution of their video game slot disagreement. ...

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Home Sweet Home

Posted on: September 29, 2018 |

On this 12-hour flight from JFK to Lagos, I can’t help but think of my home and how I’ve missed it. It’s fun to travel but it’s greater fun to go back home. Reminds me of the song by Nadia Fay that says, ‘Home is where you are, home is wher...

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Finding Eve

Posted on: September 22, 2018 |

Adam was the only man God found a wife for and after the fall, he blamed God, saying, ‘the woman you gave me…’ According to my husband, that was the last time God took on such a project. His current modus operandi is ‘He who finds a wife find...

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Posted on: September 15, 2018 |

Growing up, the simplest memory verses on pride were – ‘Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall’ and ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble’. A simple definition that we can draw ...

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Posted on: September 8, 2018 |

Do you remember Evi Edna’s song? ‘Jealousy, Jealousy, Jealousy is the root of hatred’. Some people think jealousy is insignificant and is common only in love relationships but guess what! The very first murder was driven by jealousy – Cain &a...

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Zero to Hero

Posted on: September 1, 2018 |

Many people never think about becoming a hero. This may be because we watch superhero movies from childhood and begin from then to think that one needs superpowers to qualify. What’s more, some people think their lives don’t count and there’s n...

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My Whole Life by Anietie Bature – Complete Lyrics

Posted on: July 12, 2018 |

MY WHOLE LIFE – Anietie Bature Uh Uh… Give You my heart Give You my life Give You everything Verse: You have a plan for my life oh God You’re watching over Your word To bring it to pass Your eyes are upon me You go before me YouR...

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Posted on: May 27, 2018 |

HELP THEM! You can help someone today with wisdom gleaned from your experiences, with money to address a pressing need, by connecting them to other sources of help, or by praying for them. Prayer could bring comfort or restore hope where there seemed...

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Posted on: April 1, 2018 |

Terrible things happened to Jesus on that day but we call it Good Friday. That’s because the focus is on the result, the outcome of all He suffered. He was arrested/imprisoned – I have liberty He was scourged – By those stripes, I am he...

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Posted on: March 18, 2018 |

Rome wasn’t built in a day, but these days it seems we all want to do just that or better – how about building it in a minute? Like Mister Maker. Ambition is good but every now and then, I see the need to calm down, assess the situation and push ...

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Posted on: January 28, 2018 |

He almost got us killed… but a lesson from my dad saved the day. Here’s the story. I remember my father for many reasons but today I’ll speak of only one. He taught me a valuable lesson that has saved my life on more than one occasion. He said,...

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Posted on: January 20, 2018 |

Things change – the weather, legislation, the economy, oil price, your body’s metabolism, and so on. Change is a constant in life, so expect it and prepare for it. A mentor of mine often said ‘Hope for the best but prepare for the worst’....

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Posted on: January 8, 2018 |

It’s said that ignorance is bliss. I’ll add five words to that. Ignorance is bliss until the bomb goes off. In your health In your finances In your relationships and every aspect of your life Take the time to find out all you need to know...

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Tick Tock

Posted on: January 1, 2018 |

Tick Tock. The old year’s gone. Sweet and Sour – Many battles but so many victories won. A new year in view…. Only one question I have for you: WHAT DO YOU SEE? See with your mind and your heart. Imagine, conceive, think. This visio...

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Posted on: December 10, 2017 |

It’s that time of year again. As you celebrate with friends and loved ones, remember those around you who need a little help from you to make their celebration a little more blissful. Can you provide for someone in need during this season? You ...

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Gratitude List

Posted on: December 3, 2017 |

It’s December already! Can you believe it? Soon we’ll be singing carols, going on vacation or traveling home for the holidays, giving and receiving gifts… and then that special moment will come when we gather in central locations wi...

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Why Cry?

Posted on: November 19, 2017 |

This seemed like a heartfelt cry and I wondered. I couldn’t make out what the problem was so I asked. Why are you crying?  No response. What’s wrong? No response. Did you fall down? ‘No Mummy’… she replied through the tears that st...

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No Other God – Part 2

Posted on: November 5, 2017 |

He’s the only God I know who died to save the people He created in His image and likeness. NO OTHER GOD! He gave His life in faith that we would recognize that there is no greater love than this and return to Him. Yes, return. Mankind had fellowshi...

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No Other God

Posted on: November 1, 2017 |

Hello Friends, ‘No Other God’ is now available for free listening and download. Here are links to a few platforms where you can find it: GospelHotspot NotJustOk GospelCentric Details: Song written by: Anietie Bature Produced by: Star Studios &...

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Press on!

Posted on: October 29, 2017 |

JUST PRESS ON! Tired, weary, drained…. PRESS ON Battered, shattered, tattered… PRESS ON Broken, bruised, torn apart… PRESS ON Used, abused, now confused… PRESS ON   Press on?  Press on to what?!!!  To what??….. (S...

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Salt of the Earth

Posted on: October 22, 2017 |

A lot can go wrong with a meal when the cook has not learned some secrets from more experienced hands. A long time ago, I learned that when cooking with dried fish, you have to rinse off the excess salt with cold water before you begin, and taste to ...

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Bold As a Lion

Posted on: October 8, 2017 |

I AM BOLD AS A LION! This is one statement I turn over in my mind just before I go up to sing, especially when the nerves feel almost overwhelming. It’s amazing how certain important feats seem to require so much boldness; I guess that’s because ...

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The Worship Experience 8.0

Posted on: October 2, 2017 |

October 1, 2017 was quite a day to remember. Starting from the Independence Thanksgiving Service at the City of David, Eket to The Worship Experience (TWE), which held later in the day. It was a day filled with thanksgiving, prayers, praise and worsh...

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Joy switch

Posted on: September 24, 2017 |

I can’t even begin to tell you how exciting a rehearsal session can be. It’s like therapy for me and I relied on this a lot while I was in school. No matter how tough the week was, I just had to wait for the next rehearsal. Reminds me of a song f...

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A Great Name

Posted on: September 17, 2017 |

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with one’s name being great! Sometimes in the name of humility, we keep ourselves from aspiring to achieve great things and thus limit ourselves, fail to reach our highest potential and deprive ourselves a...

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Ignition Point 6

Posted on: September 10, 2017 |

Yes. Today is the day! September 10, 2017. Ignition Point 6. It’s the sixth edition of an initiative by A. Moses. We’ve rehearsed, we’ve prayed, and now we go believing that God will fill the atmosphere with His presence as we minis...

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EMBER Months

Posted on: September 3, 2017 |

In this part of the world, the last four months of the year are referred to as EMBER months and that comes with a negative connotation. You see EMBER sounds a bit like ‘mba’, a popular Igbo word that means NO. Over the years, most people have com...

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Blame Game

Posted on: August 27, 2017 |

Sometimes we learn from the craziest situations. What do you do when you’re under pressure? Some people switch to the ‘blame somebody else’ mode and that just saturates the whole place with negative energy. But seriously speaking, the blame gam...

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Risk Aversion

Posted on: August 20, 2017 |

Kwa falls! Totally awesome. Have you been there before? It’s in Cross River State in Nigeria and you will be super wowed if you visit. I’ve been there once, over fifteen years ago and I still cannot forget that experience – going down the 234 s...

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Lekki Conservation Centre

Posted on: August 13, 2017 |

Who said we don’t have nice places to visit in Nigeria? I can’t believe this place was only two minutes away from my previous abode but I never went in. I must have rationalized away the idea back then but I’m glad I finally went in today; many...

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Posted on: August 7, 2017 |

He fell down the spiral stairwell…. Yes. It all came back to me some days back; I looked at my eight year old and couldn’t help but be grateful to God that he’s still here and that he’s in great shape – no negative after...

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Perfect Day

Posted on: July 30, 2017 |

It was time for a seven-seater. A red Ford Explorer, I thought. I pasted a picture of it on the divider in my workspace; right beside my monitor. All of a sudden, it seemed Ford Explorers were everywhere. I finally went to the showroom to closely ex...

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From Bus Conductor to PhD Holder

Posted on: July 23, 2017 |

This story really inspired me so I want to share it with you. Determination, personal development, the power of a dream…. Just watch the video. Thank you very much @AdeolaFayehun for this. How A Lagos Bus Conductor Became A PhD Holder In Austra...

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Your Best

Posted on: July 16, 2017 |

I just watched a video of a young and extremely talented doctor/singer who passed away after an accident. I’m thinking – he was all that yet his life came to an end after it took a turn for even greater heights. What happens to dreams, de...

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Tough Choices

Posted on: July 9, 2017 |

Have you ever heard about your counterpart in another company earning so much more than you do? Have you ever had your salary slashed because your employer happened upon hard times and decided that this was the best way to keep his Company afloat, wh...

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Posted on: July 2, 2017 |

It’s July already. Seriously? This year seems to be on fast-forward. Wait, is there any year that isn’t like this? They say time goes by quickly when you’re having fun, so I guess in the midst of all the things that aren’t going so well, ther...

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Jesus is Lord Service

Posted on: June 25, 2017 |

Jesus Is Lord Service. We call it JILS for short. It’s quite an interesting service that holds about three times a year at the City of David, Eket. We all take time to prepare… fasting and prayer for sure… and other instructions as ...

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Where’s that book?

Posted on: June 18, 2017 |

When we talk about hazards in the home, our minds go to wet floors, sharp objects, tall and unsecured furniture, harmful chemicals, hot liquids, gas cookers, electricity outlets, and so on. Our concerns here are mostly physical but there’s more...

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Memory Lane 5 – Cakes 2

Posted on: June 11, 2017 |

Memory Lane 4 – Cakes 1 Aha! Cakes! I knew how to make cakes. Good enough, a kind gesture towards helping a friend make her birthday more memorable had led me to buy the basic cake decorating kit while I still had money. So I thought – if...

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Memory Lane 4 – Cakes 1

Posted on: June 4, 2017 |

Yesterday, I went to visit a friend. We chatted for a while and she offered me cake. I said ’em… who baked it?’ and after she replied I proceeded to tell her about how picky I am about cakes and why. There’s a whole story here...

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My Whole Life by Anietie Bature – Lyrics

Posted on: May 31, 2017 |

MY WHOLE LIFE – Anietie Bature VERSE You have a plan for my life oh God You’re watching over your word To bring it to pass Your eyes are upon me You go before me You’re leading me I totally surrender Totally surrender to you CHORUS ...

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Memory Lane 3 – Time Wasters 2

Posted on: May 21, 2017 |

Time wasters 1 ‘That means I’m in love with about five ladies’… My dad’s late. That’s why he spoke of permission from my mum. These statements seemed to hold a lot of promise but hey, they came from Timbo, so I documen...

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Memory Lane 2 – Time Wasters

Posted on: May 14, 2017 |

“That means I’m in love with about five ladies’. Yes, that’s what he said. I’ve been waiting for the right time to share this experience. I think it’s time now. I thought this matter of time wasters would have faded into almost non-existe...

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Memory Lane 1 – Asthma

Posted on: May 7, 2017 |

Every now and then I take a walk down memory lane and count my blessings. This time I came upon an experience that I will never forget and will forever be grateful for. Different things remind me about it as I carry on with every day life – a c...

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Posted on: May 1, 2017 |

New Month! Four gone, eight to go, then we’ll be shouting ‘Happy New Year’ again. Time truly waits for no man. A cousin of ours came visiting. Just yesterday she gained admission into the University and now she is getting ready for ...

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An invitation

Posted on: April 23, 2017 |

It was a wonderful holiday. I think the kids had the best time visiting their friends and bonding with their cousins. Kids often get the best deal when it comes to relaxing and resting. The school calendar just works for them – work hard 3 mont...

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Posted on: April 16, 2017 |

Yesterday as rehearsals with the Lagos Community Gospel Choir progressed for the Easter Morning Concert at This Present House, Lekki, Lagos, I wondered again about what Easter really means…. Pain that brought joy, chains that brought liberty, ...

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My Whole Life by Anietie Bature

Posted on: April 9, 2017 |

On March 31, 2017, my new single ‘My Whole Life’ was released. When asked to say something about this song,  I recalled that I had prayed the words of this song for years and on this particular morning in January 2016 the words came toge...

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My Mother

Posted on: March 26, 2017 |

It’s Mothers’ Day in many Countries around the world today and I’m taking this time to talk about my mother. She has been a constant all through my life and I think this is a good opportunity to celebrate her. She’s fondly cal...

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Posted on: March 19, 2017 |

There’s always a first… and today I had my first opportunity to serve as a judge in a musical talent hunt. It was an interesting experience and thanks to ‘The Voice Nigeria‘, I wasn’t clueless. As I sat through it, my un...

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The Praise Conversation

Posted on: March 12, 2017 |

Have you ever found yourself heading straight for disaster? Do you know how real anxiety feels? Can you describe what happens to the heart when it’s gripped by fear? It’s amazing how crippling fear can be but we have access to a weapon that disar...

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Posted on: March 7, 2017 |

Recently, I heard someone say that every time a baby is to be delivered… the mother is asked to push. If she has to give birth to more babies in the future, she’ll have to push each time. The push for baby 1 will not help in anyway to bri...

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Seize the moment!

Posted on: February 26, 2017 |

There’s so much good in you. What are you going to do with it? Are you waiting for a perfect opportunity to use the goodness in you? What do you even have in mind to do with it? Use it for personal gain? More money? More friends? Or you donR...

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The Tree

Posted on: February 19, 2017 |

‘Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their ways and become wise! Though they have no prince or  governor or ruler to make them work, they labor hard all summer, gathering food for the winter’…. Yeah, yeah… ...

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Posted on: February 12, 2017 |

There’s a science to untying knots. I took it for granted until I had to teach my kids to do this. With a little direction, my daughter who earlier proclaimed in frustration that she couldn’t untie a knot, after several failed attempts to open a ...

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Posted on: February 5, 2017 |

Work took me away from home for a few days and I had to return a day later than planned. To compensate the little ones who were counting down to my return, I went shopping for gifts that would be a combination of fun and learning and found, amongst ...

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100 ways

Posted on: January 29, 2017 |

Go on vacation to an exotic location, buy a new car, win the Lagos City Marathon, climb Mount Everest, shed 20kg in six months…. We all continue to strive to achieve one thing or the other and that is good. But to go from where you are to where...

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Have Faith – Think Big

Posted on: January 22, 2017 |

Everything is possible for one who believes. Anything is possible if a person believes. Everything is possible to the one who believes. As far as possibilities go, everything is possible for the person who believes. Yes. I would have assumed that Jes...

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Ask How

Posted on: January 15, 2017 |

Now that we’re off to a Smart Start, a concept comes to mind that I came across in ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’, a book by Robert Kiyosaki in which he said that compared to rich people, poor people respond in a different manner when faced with a need. ...

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Smart Start

Posted on: January 8, 2017 |

Back in Primary School, I got excited every time a new notebook was given to me. There’s something about the way it smelled that made me feel I had another opportunity to do better, write better, make my work neater and more orderly, and most i...

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Merry Christmas 

Posted on: December 25, 2016 |

It’s so much fun spending Christmas with family; even better when you merge families. That’s exactly what we did. My entire immediate family travelled over streams, rivers and forests to be with my Sister and her family. The kids are thri...

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Christmas Core

Posted on: December 18, 2016 |

It’s the most wonderful time of the year and I am enjoying every day of this season although it comes with a lot of cooking and cleaning. I like meeting up with family and friends and sharing fun times… and the gifts, ohhhh the gifts. I e...

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2016 in review

Posted on: December 11, 2016 |

Tell me. How has 2016 been for you? What were the low and high points? What is the one thing that will always come to your mind whenever you think back on this year? I had a look at my Keynote presentation – 2016: Reimagine. My goals for the ye...

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Count Your Blessings

Posted on: December 4, 2016 |

Hey! We’re in December! I’m counting down to the end of 2016. In fact, I have a table with major activities marked for most days. You can call it my last attempt at getting some things done this year or my preliminary efforts towards a mo...

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Colorful Caterpillar 

Posted on: November 28, 2016 |

On a dull Monday evening, as I walked towards my house, I saw this beautiful caterpillar. I haven’t seen anything like this before. I had to stop to take a picture and make a video and I’m sharing this with you. Nathan says it walks like ...

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Keep dreaming 

Posted on: November 27, 2016 |

Yesterday I addressed a group of women at the City of David, Eket. It was my first official speaking engagement and I totally enjoyed discussing the topic ‘The Career Woman’ with them. I took time to prepare and tried to stick to my scrip...

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Success Strategies 3 – Plan

Posted on: November 20, 2016 |

I decided long ago to celebrate the members of my family to the best of my ability each time their birthdays came around. By default, I have those dates on my vacation plan every year. For the kids, the little things matter. Having mummy do almost ev...

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Success Strategies 2 – Negotiate

Posted on: November 13, 2016 |

My little one is a professional at saying exactly what he wants and he often insists on getting it. He’ll specify the cup you should use and how full it should be when you prepare him a chocolate drink. He’ll say the outfit he wants to pu...

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Success Strategies

Posted on: November 6, 2016 |

I watched a leader give an account of his organization’s achievements over the past year. He said everything without referring to a document. He had the figures for the key performance indicators logged in his memory and I thought that was impr...

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Husband Material 3 – Watch!

Posted on: November 6, 2016 |

More often than not, the signs are there to help you tell what kind of person you’re dealing with and how they’ll likely behave or respond to certain events in the future. I believe this discovery of a person’s tendencies, likes, d...

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Husband material 2 – Intelligence 

Posted on: October 23, 2016 |

I always wanted someone as intelligent or more intelligent. For me, tall, dark and handsome wasn’t the end of the matter. In fact, I didn’t want dark; I wanted chocolate brown. I remember I used to say ‘a shade darker than I am̵...

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Husband material – 1

Posted on: October 16, 2016 |

One beautiful evening, I sat by my window and discussed with all the people who came to see me. It was my birthday and as expected, I had several guests. I was able to receive my female friends inside my room in the hostel but guys weren’t allowed ...

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Low Budget Excellence

Posted on: October 9, 2016 |

A mentor of mine speaks of low budget excellence from time to time. In summary, this is about striving to get the highest value at the lowest cost possible. It’s not so easy to achieve though. You have to go the extra mile to discover people o...

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Posted on: October 2, 2016 |

On the X Factor UK, a young man got four yeses after singing beautifully. He ran out to meet his mum and picked her up in a joyful embrace. The transitions in life are just so amazing. I remember holding Nathan in my arms shortly after his birth and ...

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Piano Nanny

Posted on: September 25, 2016 |

Some years back, we bought a piano for our son and got him a teacher. I wanted him to have the opportunity I didn’t have to learn to play at a young age. I looked at the piano sitting there a few times and wondered if I should join him on the journ...

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Survival 3 – Praise

Posted on: September 18, 2016 |

Hand clapping, toe tapping, hand lifting, dancing, jumping, shouting, waving, singing, playing skillfully or not so skillfully on your musical instrument – these are all acceptable forms of praise. If you don’t know how to play any of tho...

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Survival 2 – Stay Connected

Posted on: September 11, 2016 |

Apart from the ‘not-so-common sense’ strategies that are widely advised for implementation during a recession, what more can one do to outlast this season of adversity? It’s interesting that the answer to this question will vary from person to ...

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Survival 1 – A Tree

Posted on: September 4, 2016 |

Looking out my window, I see a tree. It looks absolutely healthy and full of life. Its flexible branches sway this way and that in the gentle breeze and all I can see from here is life, peace, well being. Nothing missing, nothing broken. This tree is...

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Holiday over

Posted on: August 28, 2016 |

Back to base. School’s starting soon. The kids miss their cousins already. One can actually have a wonderful holiday even without traveling to an exotic location. After our getaway, my husband and I joined the kids at my sister’s home. Th...

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Posted on: August 21, 2016 |

I’ve heard it said a few times that you learn a lot from biographies. I’ve come to discover that these accounts often hold a lot of truth and reality; especially those that are written after the death of the subject, and autobiographies w...

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Spoil Yourself

Posted on: August 14, 2016 |

One can easily be tempted to keep working, keep saving, keep investing, keep spending money on the basic necessities of life and never allocate any time or money to rest, to relax and to enjoy one’s life. But it’s necessary to take a brea...

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Fear Factor – 2

Posted on: August 7, 2016 |

I remember the first time I rode a bicycle without assistance. My dad had repaired four bicycles and  needed to get them home. Only one could fit in the boot of his car so he asked us to ride the others. We often hung out with him in the mechanical ...

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Call Him

Posted on: July 31, 2016 |

He’s a student at the Akwa Ibom State University and a friend of his was kind enough to lend him a laptop to meet his day to day computing needs. He had come to Eket town that weekend to sing at the ‘Evening Sacrifice’, a worship program organi...

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Don’t wait for the funeral

Posted on: July 24, 2016 |

It’s interesting how we speak so well of people at their funeral. You’ll hear about all the nice things a person did in their lifetime and about all the things they did so well. I can imagine the person thinking, ‘you mean I did tha...

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Long Distance – final part

Posted on: July 17, 2016 |

With barely a month to the wedding, Kingsley went house hunting. He would call to ask my opinion as he went about and when he finally found the house he felt would do for our first home, he scheduled a meeting with the agent so I could see it before ...

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Long Distance – Part 3

Posted on: July 10, 2016 |

A lot was happening all at once. 2007 turned out to be quite a year. Could it be because I wrote out all those interesting items on my list of things to accomplish in 2007? Could it be that in addition to dreaming and planning, I was praying for thos...

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Long Distance – Part 2

Posted on: July 3, 2016 |

You couldn’t possibly imagine my joy when we arrived Nigeria. I was unperturbed by the harsh weather in Abuja at that time of year. It was HOT and my then fairer skin was getting it… a warm welcome home indeed. Kingsley was working in Akure, a to...

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Long Distance – The Story

Posted on: June 26, 2016 |

No, I didn’t want to leave my sweetheart… but I had to. It was a painful decision to make. I had experienced a miracle and now it was time for me to do my part. I always wanted a Masters’ degree and after the required exams to study in the US, ...

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Posted on: June 19, 2016 |

People always talk about ‘chemistry’ in love relationships but who would have thought Physics had a role to play in matters of the heart? “Like poles repel and unlike poles attract… so make sure you marry a tall man”. That’s what my physi...

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Wife Finding Skills

Posted on: June 12, 2016 |

‘In the multitude of counsellors, there is safety’. It is wise to learn from people who have travelled the road ahead of you. You can incorporate best practices they share into your own life and avoid the pitfalls they bring to your notic...

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My Love Glasses

Posted on: June 5, 2016 |

‘Love is blind, but marriage opens the eye’. That’s what my Social Studies teacher once said. He said many other things but this one has remained with me since. So from my teenage years, I told myself ‘my love must wear glasses’. I knew thi...

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Favourites 2 – The Coat of Many Colours

Posted on: May 29, 2016 |

Now let’s go on to the second record. You see, it’s so important to have a basis for your beliefs, values, decisions and positions. Without that, you’ll find yourself swaying this way and that. People should be able to say this is who this pers...

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Posted on: May 22, 2016 |

When it comes to children, I don’t have favourites. In fact, I’m not really into favourites. I don’t have a favourite colour, perfume, place in the world, or favourite food. At least, I can boast of having a favourite person in the world and th...

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The Accident

Posted on: May 15, 2016 |

There was an accident. Two kids died; both from the same family. I was told the driver of the school bus was going too fast. He was on his way to pick children from a nearby village and drive them to school when he lost control and ran into the bike ...

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1 over 7

Posted on: May 8, 2016 |

It’s so important to ensure that you rest. Sometimes things just come up and you find yourself going from one task to the other, one meeting to the next, driven by whatever drives you. Then before you know it, you realize the weekend – or...

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Pursuit of Purpose

Posted on: May 1, 2016 |

A certain man did his job so well from day to day and was extremely valuable to the organization he worked for. Somewhere along the line, certain changes were to be made that would require him to move away from his base to work in a different locatio...

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Don’t stop

Posted on: April 24, 2016 |

There’s more to you than what is your present reality. Whatever you do, don’t stop learning and don’t stop investing in your personal development. The way of the good person is like the light of dawn, growing brighter and brighter u...

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Priority Check

Posted on: April 17, 2016 |

It’s so easy to get carried away with the activity and forget the reason for it. A man says to his wife, ‘how can you say I don’t care about you and the kids any more? I spend so much time working hard so I can provide for you. I have given you...

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Post Vacation

Posted on: April 10, 2016 |

I had the most interesting Easter Holiday cum vacation. The kids’ school closed on Thursday, the day before Good Friday. Can you imagine that? Well, by God’s grace and favor, we were able to make it to Lagos on the the same day. Now IR...

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Count the Cost

Posted on: April 3, 2016 |

The cost estimate was provided and a decision had to be made… to start or to wait. In the room with me were my close companions – Passion and Common Sense. Passion said ‘Yes, go for it! Even if you don’t have all the money that’s requir...

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Posted on: March 27, 2016 |

I read about someone who did something he shouldn’t have done and many people began to attack him on social media. I was concerned about the whole thing and was in deep thought about it for a while. I wanted to understand what went wrong and ho...

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Making Fear Your Servant

Posted on: March 20, 2016 |

Yes! You can make fear your servant. Do you wonder how? I learnt this sometime back and it has really been useful in dealing with fears about the future. You know what happens when fear is at work. You can almost hear voices in your head telling you ...

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Margaret Adegoke’s Legacy – 10 years on

Posted on: March 14, 2016 |

Daughter, Sister, Wife, Mother, Friend, Mentor… She was many things to many people and our perspectives as we look back today, March 14, 2016, to celebrate her life are several. She often had a smile on her face and she loved to laugh. Hers was a g...

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Your Life Purpose in 5 minutes

Posted on: March 13, 2016 |

Each time you attend a success or leadership seminar, you’ll hear something about purpose. You hear it everywhere – at work, at church, in business circles, everywhere. In fact, before you create anything, you have to be very clear on the...

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Posted on: March 6, 2016 |

Have you heard about the ‘area of brilliance’? Well, this stood out to me as I advanced through the pages of The Power of Focus. Simply put, this is that area where you excel with minimal effort, study or preparation. It’s an area of ease for y...

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Making the Most

Posted on: February 28, 2016 |

Moving to Eket was quite an event in my family’s life. If this had happened three years ago, I think I would have been devastated but certain happenings brought me to a place where I felt like I could pull up my anchors, sail to a new location, set...

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Habits 2

Posted on: February 21, 2016 |

My kids love to go swimming. It took a while but we eventually worked this activity into our weekly family routine and now the process is seamless. It’s been said that the average time required to change a habit is about twenty one days. It’s int...

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Habits 1

Posted on: February 14, 2016 |

Once upon a time, I used to read all sorts of books. Then life happened and I had to narrow the scope of my reading accordingly. Well I found this one book and someone said ‘if you only read one book this millennium… the Power of Focus should be ...

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Posted on: February 7, 2016 |

Every now and then we find ourselves in a situation where we need help. Sometimes in desperation we cry out to God and go on to face the day, hoping that things will work out fine. Then one thing leads to another, something changes, someone shows up ...

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Posted on: January 31, 2016 |

Once school’s in session, my responsibilities extend to doing homework with the kids. This isn’t something I look forward to but there are some benefits. Believe it or not, I get to learn new things as I get involved and it is an opportun...

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2015 in review

Posted on: January 25, 2016 |

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog. Here’s an excerpt: A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 4,300 times in 2015. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take...

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Look around you

Posted on: January 25, 2016 |

While doing some “handy manny” type jobs at home some days back, my hubby tried to figure out the cause of the frequent trips we had been experiencing on our generator. He came to the conclusion that the engine oil tank was in need of a refill bu...

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Edge of the Frame

Posted on: January 19, 2016 |

While on holiday at my sister’s home, my daughter found a couple of unpaintedHello Kitty pictures and decided to have a go at adding color to the black and white prints. She did her thing and a few days before we returned to our base she came t...

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Smoking HOT

Posted on: January 17, 2016 |

Smoking! Somebody… stop me. Do you remember this statement from the movie, the Mask? Of all that was said, that’s the one line I can’t forget. Though an old movie, you can still draw a lot of meaning from that one statement. At the ...

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Find Peace

Posted on: January 11, 2016 |

If you ever find yourself feeling weighed down, disappointed by how slow your pace in life seems… If you ever wonder why you’re still here when others you considered more valuable, more impactful, and more influential than yourself are lo...

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Dream Bigger

Posted on: January 10, 2016 |

While organizing the files on my system, I happened upon a document I called ‘Dreams – What I’m believing for’. I opened it to see what I had written. The column headings were: What – the item/my desire The Promise ̵...

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Who I am and Why I’m here

Posted on: January 4, 2016 |

Who am I? I’m a singer, songwriter, chemical & environmental engineer, wife to one husband, and mother to three wonderful children whom I learn from day after day. As I go through life, I try to learn from my experiences and those of others...

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Think BIG

Posted on: January 3, 2016 |

Yes! You made it to 2016. I rejoice with you because you overcame all the challenges life threw at you in the past year and you’re here. You’re still standing. Excellent! So now that you’re here, what next? I discovered a presentation app on my...

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Posted on: December 27, 2015 |

Here’s my chance to say THANK YOU to you for reading my weekly posts. It would be so unfulfilling to keep writing when no one’s reading. I can’t imagine a chef preparing delicious meals day after day with no one to eat them. I hope ...

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Letting Go

Posted on: December 20, 2015 |

It was the beginning of the holiday season. My sister and I decided to go with our families to see the colourful Christmas decorations Zenith Bank so graciously put up. There was excitement in the air as we walked along. We soon reached a portion of ...

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Say Hello

Posted on: December 6, 2015 |

While at an event, a gentleman walked up to me and began to tell me about how he was trying to extend the borders of his business. He needed information about Calabar and had some difficulty finding someone who knew the city well enough to help him. ...

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Watch & Learn

Posted on: November 29, 2015 |

I thought I heard a truck approach but by the time the large drops began to drum on my roof, I realized it was a heavy downpour; heavy and abrupt. I say so because in about five minutes from the time it started, this amazing rainfall ended. I mean it...

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Pass It On

Posted on: November 22, 2015 |

My son came back into the house with a sad look on his face. The chain of his bicycle had come off and he came to get help. He’s not yet outgrown the idea that his dad and I can fix everything and since I was the “engineer” on duty, I had to fi...

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Don’t be a mad man

Posted on: November 8, 2015 |

I heard an interesting story today of an elderly preacher who gave the title ‘Don’t be a mad man’ to his message on a fine Sunday morning several years ago. One couldn’t help but notice the puzzled look on the faces of his congregants. But by...

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Find Your Reason

Posted on: November 1, 2015 |

Shout! It’s a new month. You made it and so you have every reason to rejoice and be glad. You may think it’s not a big deal but it is. You may even think there’s no reason to rejoice because you may have been through some tough times in the rec...

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Posted on: October 26, 2015 |

He worked in Akure at that time. I had just completed my second degree and was living with my family in Abuja. We planned to get married and settle in Akure. He had found an apartment for rent at a rate we could afford and located in an area with eas...

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Reach Out

Posted on: October 18, 2015 |

Micah had been all over the house earlier in the day. It was obvious he was sleepy but he just refused to admit it or give in to our efforts to make him sleep. Finally, he asked for a sheet of paper and a pen and went to the dining table to scribble....

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Paying Attention

Posted on: October 11, 2015 |

My daughter is at that phase where she doesn’t pay attention long enough. She easily gets distracted with information in a nearby print out, a Barbie doll, a thought that comes to her mind, or something else. This new trait shows up particularly du...

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Finishing Strong

Posted on: October 4, 2015 |

Over the past few weeks, I’ve heard about ‘finishing strong’ from two influential figures in my life. I think it’s a tactful approach to start now to refocus efforts towards finishing strong. That way we can invest the coming weeks to months ...

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Self Discipline

Posted on: September 27, 2015 |

Here’s my definition of self discipline – You do what you know you should do because it is the right thing to do if you are to achieve your goal. I think self discipline would be difficult to develop if there was nothing to look forward to. There...

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Posted on: September 20, 2015 |

I showed up at the gym after a little over a month of no workout. The treadmill was my equipment of choice so I stayed on it for about 30 minutes although the  gym instructor had warned against doing too much on my first day back. Now, only a few ho...

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First Impressions

Posted on: September 13, 2015 |

The carpenter arrived with the pieces that were to be put together to make the beds. Nathan perceived the recently coated wood from an adjoining room and blurted out, ‘what’s that awful smell?’ I immediately thought ‘o oh… where are they go...

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My First Aid Box

Posted on: September 6, 2015 |

I had a cute first aid box sometime back. It was white with a red cross and it had a little bit of all you should have in a first aid box. Well, time passed and it emptied out. So I decided to refill it because I wanted to be prepared in the event th...

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All things new

Posted on: August 30, 2015 |

I’m wondering where to start from. Everything is so different around me. New city, new home, new writing position. At the moment, my dining table seems to be a good place, but I am considering a certain corner in my new room. I think the newnes...

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6th Sense

Posted on: August 23, 2015 |

On the average day, I am a pros and cons superstar. I delight in checking out, weighing, and evaluating options so that I can eventually make an informed decision. This works on most occasions, however, there are times when there’s more to it than ...

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Posted on: August 16, 2015 |

Without warning, everything changed for Daniel, his cousins and friends. They were young; they had their whole future ahead of them and they often dreamed of occupying positions of influence and making a mark when their time came. This was a natural ...

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Extra Milers

Posted on: August 9, 2015 |

This weekend something interesting happened. We were at a hotel in Eket and for the fun of it, my husband was assessing them. From how quickly we were checked in, to how polite the staff were, to the speed with which they prepared the food we ordered...

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War of Words

Posted on: August 2, 2015 |

Have you ever wondered why a lot of wrestlers make a speech against their opponent before the match begins? What we want to see is the fight, right? Or could it be this verbal engagement is also part of it? Well, it might interest you to know that th...

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Posted on: July 26, 2015 |

Once upon a time, we prayed about everything and trusted God for direction. Then someone said God gave us brains for a purpose, we should stop bothering Him with the little details of our lives. So we began to pray only about the serious issues – f...

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Time Test

Posted on: July 19, 2015 |

It’s been quite a day – from the worship service to a baby dedication reception, then to a thanksgiving party, then a graduation party and finally a birthday party. This day’s been truly packed. At first I was concerned about timing and wan...

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Empty Nests

Posted on: July 12, 2015 |

Every now and then, I hear couples talk about having all their birds away from the nest. All of a sudden, the kids go off to boarding school or become independent and move away from home to start life on their own. The nest empties out and mum and da...

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Work in Progress

Posted on: July 5, 2015 |

I stepped carefully into a structure that appeared to be a house. The floor was covered with so much rubble, it was hard to find a good spot to place my foot as I walked. The steps on the staircase were not yet clearly defined and there were no raili...

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Mid Year Check

Posted on: June 28, 2015 |

I wonder why I needed a reminder this time. It didn’t quite register that we’re almost at the end of the first half of the year and it’s time for a Mid Year Check. Well, I’m extending the reminder to you. Your Mid Year Check i...

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Drenched – UNKNOWN 3

Posted on: June 21, 2015 |

I made it in early that morning. I had everything planned the day before, down to my outfit, just to make sure there was no reason to be late. I really wanted to have that full hour to myself before jumping into the bustle of the day. Having the luxu...

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Answer the questions – UNKNOWN 2

Posted on: June 14, 2015 |

I remember how relieved I was when this year rolled in. I felt like the past year was a cage that I got out of just before it closed in on me.  The new year held such hope and promise with new dreams and ambitions brewing in my mind. It’s interest...

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Do not worry – UNKNOWN 1

Posted on: June 7, 2015 |

Have you ever been in a situation where you were going to experience a major change? Can you recall the feelings and emotions you had to deal with? You know sometimes you find yourself awake at night, unusually unable to sleep, because although your ...

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Posted on: May 31, 2015 |

Everyone knows what’s up in Nigeria. I’m thrilled. You can almost touch the hope in the air and each breath feels like a dose of reassurance that our country’s headed in the right direction and a new Nigeria is emerging. I’m glad about this. ...

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Giant Slayer – DO IT 4

Posted on: May 24, 2015 |

Everywhere we look today, we still see giants. This time, they’re not necessarily 9-11 feet tall but some of them still are intimidating and seemingly insurmountable. They show up in different sectors of the economy, in our businesses, in raising o...

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Be Prepared – DO IT 3

Posted on: May 17, 2015 |

I marvel at the time David spent preparing to face Goliath. One would have thought that he would launch his attack immediately he came to the conclusion that Goliath had to be taken out, but that wasn’t the case at all. Rather, he took time to find...

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Take Action – DO IT 2

Posted on: May 10, 2015 |

While I was an undergraduate, the Chaplain often told a story about two birds flying in the sky. The one in front was female and the one in pursuit was male. The male would chirp ‘I love you, I love you’ and the female would respond ‘show it, s...

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It’s all about you – by Anietie

Posted on: May 5, 2015 |

Verse 1 What would the future hold If you didn’t love me so To die for me while I was undeserving What would tomorrow bring If you didn’t sacrifice your life and your divinity You took away my guilt and shame I’m justified, I have a...

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Watch your words – DO IT 1

Posted on: May 3, 2015 |

People say talk is cheap. That’s a fact because it doesn’t cost you anything to open your mouth and say whatever you want to say. But when you consider it, talk can be pretty expensive. I’m sure you know already that the words you u...

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Posted on: April 26, 2015 |

One thing I’m grateful for is the friends I’ve had. From my childhood till now, I’ve been blessed with good company, good influence, good inspiration, motivators, challengers, encouragers, counsellors, comforters and helpers in the form of frie...

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Tomorrow is Another Day

Posted on: April 19, 2015 |

Tomorrow Is Another Day When I said ‘Thank God it’s Friday’ this time, I didn’t quite feel the usual excitement. There were a few time consuming offsite activities planned for Saturday and some other things to sort out at home so the prospect...

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Self Check

Posted on: April 12, 2015 |

What happens to drivers who are in too much of a hurry to stop and refuel their vehicles? How about cyclers who are bent on getting to the finish line first so they refuse to slow down to collect vital supplies along the way? Ever imagined what the o...

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One Man

Posted on: April 5, 2015 |

All over the world today, people celebrate the power of a well calculated and targeted investment. Who said God doesn’t understand business? Isn’t it sheer genius that a one time investment made over two thousand years ago is still yielding retur...

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Posted on: March 29, 2015 |

I remember a scene from ‘the good, the bad and the ugly’, a western movie from back in the days. A man pointed a gun at his adversary and went on and on about how he was going to kill him, the pleasure he would derive, and so on. At some ...

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Start today

Posted on: March 22, 2015 |

My daughter is crazy about long hair. She has this really interesting hair texture that doesn’t quite do well with weaves. I usually say the strands cry out from the locks ‘let me out, let me out, I want to be free’. Long story short, her hair ...

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Snap out of it

Posted on: March 15, 2015 |

Happiness is a choice. I’ve known that for a long time now but I was reminded of that this past week when things didn’t go the way I planned. I invested valuable time in an activity that turned out to be an exercise in futility. It hurt so much a...

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Posted on: March 8, 2015 |

I fell ill. Wow! This usually doesn’t happen to me, but it did. The height of it was the moment I fell to the ground while trying to get from the hospital bed to the restroom which was only about 10 feet away. Someone helped me back to the bed ...

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Residence Permit

Posted on: March 1, 2015 |

I remember my days on Campus. It was like being in a free world to some extent. There weren’t any serious rules to abide by so you could almost say we were free to do whatever we wanted. People buried themselves in diverse passions they only then h...

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The Choice

Posted on: February 22, 2015 |

Sometimes, even when we know for sure that possibilities exist, we feel too tired to reach out and grab what is right there in front of us. Sometimes we’re so close to the big break we desire and all that’s left is one move, but all of a sudden, ...

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Life Cycle

Posted on: February 15, 2015 |

Are you one of those who hardly ever have a problem? Consider yourself fortunate, lucky, blessed. Sometimes we coast for seasons without stress but every now and then, just as examinations are required to test our knowledge and competence, and to det...

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In Love

Posted on: February 8, 2015 |

Yes, it’s almost here – Valentine’s day! And with the elections postponed in Nigeria, the celebration of love can go on. Yesterday, I stumbled upon an old book of mine and my husband and I had a good laugh as we went over some of th...

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February Already

Posted on: February 1, 2015 |

I remember saying Happy New Year just a while ago in a large gathering at Eko Hotel where we had the cross over service. It seems like just yesterday but a whole month has already gone by since then and now I can say this year is in full swing. No mo...

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Posted on: January 25, 2015 |

I read an account of 12 spies who went to check out a land that had been promised to them. It was a serious fact finding mission and they were to return with as much information about the land as they could possibly gather to give the rest of the peo...

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When you believe

Posted on: January 18, 2015 |

There were loud cheers and shouts of joy as the moment came when this long awaited event would occur. The trumpeters sent triumphant sound waves into the air and the drummers responded. The talking drum in its unique expression made way for, and inte...

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A well-watered garden

Posted on: January 11, 2015 |

Someone said something funny some days back. He said ‘blessed are those who finish all their December Salary in December, for they shall know the true meaning of endurance in January’. I had a good laugh. In 2012, a friend of mine sent a broadcas...

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Special Agent

Posted on: January 4, 2015 |

If you had asked me sometime back to define righteousness, my response would have been in this direction – abstaining from all kinds of sin. Well, a few friends of mine embarked on a study and they created a BBM platform for their discussions. I’...

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Fifty Two!

Posted on: December 28, 2014 |

Fifty two weeks in a year… Not ten, not twenty five… FIFTY TWO! Sometimes it feels like an uphill task going through just one week… and here we are in the very last week of this year. Wow! We made it! You’re still here, and I’m still here; ...

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A time to give

Posted on: December 21, 2014 |

This morning, we walked into the Palms and I heard someone say ‘I really feel Christmas in this place’. So I stepped back in my mind to assess the environment and some basic features were in place – Christmas carols, Christmas decorations, ligh...

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Time out!

Posted on: December 14, 2014 |

I am finally on vacation and I’m having a blast. From waking up after sunrise, rather than before, to having enough time to relax in a tub of hot water spiced with Lippia Citriodora flower extract, to following the most captivating aroma in the air...

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Posted on: December 7, 2014 |

Whenever I travel to Akwa Ibom State in Nigeria, I ensure that I make the most of every opportunity to enjoy a bowl of fish peppersoup. It is such a delicacy and I go for fish in particular because of delicious varieties of fresh fish available over ...

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An angel

Posted on: November 30, 2014 |

It had been quite a week and when Friday came around, I was super happy. I still had a lot to do so I had to keep on pushing. I tied up a few loose ends, parked some tasks in a to-be-continued shed and finished up an important report. I made a hard c...

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Seed talk

Posted on: November 23, 2014 |

I saw a picture of a seedling growing above the dirt and the caption on it was profound. It read ‘they buried us; they didn’t know we were seeds’. All over the world and probably every single day, seeds are sown. In the traditional way of doing...

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Posted on: November 16, 2014 |

It’s the beginning of another week and I’m excited because I intend to pick up from where I left off on a particular project. It’s been on my mind for a while and I was in a quandary about it but after a few additional evaluations and considera...

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Pick something up

Posted on: November 9, 2014 |

I happily loosened my Ghanaian weave on Friday evening. It was a good look but it was due for a change and I looked forward to something fresh and really nice. While looking through a collection of family photos, I came across one in which my hair wa...

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Count your blessings

Posted on: November 2, 2014 |

I woke up this morning feeling normal. It seemed like it was going to be an ordinary day but today’s my birthday so I’m expected to be extra happy and excited, and we also had a thanksgiving service planned at This Present House. The rest of the ...

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Best Life NOW!

Posted on: October 26, 2014 |

A few days ago, a friend of mine was laid to rest. He was young, full of life and very resourceful. Judging from how well he lived, one would have concluded that he had his whole life ahead of him and that he was going to accomplish so much more, but...

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Count me in!

Posted on: October 19, 2014 |

Still thinking about David… I wonder what kind of child he was. Do you know his father, Jesse, forgot about him when the king maker came to their house to select the next king? For some reason, probably because he was the youngest son, his fath...

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Posted on: October 12, 2014 |

Nathan is an interesting boy. You can’t quite take fun out of his routine. A few weeks back, he had a lot of homework to do and the plan was to spread it over the weekend. His dad however told him he had to work before playing. Assuming this mean...

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Starting Point

Posted on: October 5, 2014 |

Sometimes you just have to start, dig the foundation, lay the first brick, or do whatever to get the ball rolling. I once had a friend tutor me on diving. She told me about breath control, how to place my arms when getting into the water, how to move...

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Imagine that!

Posted on: September 28, 2014 |

A friend of mine and I were called to receive a reward for the support we provided to a team. We were to pick a t-shirt each with the colour and size of our choice. The ones that were easy to reach were all L, XL or XXL and I almost settled for large...

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3 Months

Posted on: September 21, 2014 |

Earlier in the day, someone reminded me that we have a little over 3 months to the end of this year. What?!! 3 months? That’s 1, 2, 3 months. The year has almost come to an end. Where did the time go? I had a number of things planned for this year....

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My First Flight

Posted on: September 14, 2014 |

For a long time, I dreamed of flying in an airplane. I finally got my chance some years back and did not fail to document my perception of that experience. Today, someone said something that brought it to mind. Here’s what I wrote: Thank Y...

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My Earring

Posted on: September 7, 2014 |

Today, I lost my earring. It’s one of those ones with a hinge and holds the ear lobe a little too firmly so to give myself a break from the pressure after a few hours of wearing it today, I unclamped it and let it hang there. It crossed my mind tha...

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Posted on: August 24, 2014 |

For a while, I wondered how to work some exercise into my routine. Each time I spoke of my need for exercise, someone said something like ‘please, leave that story for those of us who really need it’. People who are ‘slim’ are not really cons...

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Scope it right!

Posted on: August 17, 2014 |

If I were asked to talk about my childhood, I could either go off on whatever tangent I liked talking from ‘sense to nonsense’ – according to my husband – or I could ask the person to define the scope to enable me give a respo...

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Posted on: August 10, 2014 |

It is only natural for little kids to want to spend time with their parents. You’ll often find them trying to work out all their activities in such a way that they can have you near. My kids ask to play their games and do their homework in m...

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Baby Shower

Posted on: August 3, 2014 |

I attended a friend’s baby shower today. It was a good time out with other ladies and we were all glad to be there to spend some time with our friend, let her know how special she is and wish her peace, love, strength and grace for the journey ...

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Stick with it!

Posted on: July 27, 2014 |

Back in the day when I was a little girl, even though that was not so long ago, I could walk home from school by myself. There was almost nothing to worry about. Buying me a wristwatch was one mistake my parents made because I now had the device ...

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Live well

Posted on: July 20, 2014 |

While having my hair made yesterday, I decided to put my time to good use; an attempt to kill two birds with one stone. So I took out my phone and proceeded to update myself on events around the world. Nigeria, Russia, Ukraine, Malaysia, Israel, Pale...

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Beyond the silence

Posted on: July 13, 2014 |

Right here, right now, it’s quiet. I can hear the lights… yes… it’s that quiet. This is a good time to think, plan, and dream. It’s also a good time to listen. Sometimes there’s so much noise around us that we c...

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Posted on: July 6, 2014 |

My kids can’t wait to be adults. They go on and on about becoming big like daddy and mummy and doing things adults do e.g., staying up late, using makeup, wearing heels, getting married, buying cars and having a little more liberty. Nathan uses me ...

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Posted on: June 29, 2014 |

We once had a dog named Zelda. She wasn’t the prettiest dog on the planet but to me she was just perfect. Zelda loved to play, eat and sleep, and she was the most alert guard dog I knew. She had such big ears that when she was still a puppy, they s...

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First time RIGHT!

Posted on: June 22, 2014 |

I decided to call an old friend and find out how he was and what was going on in his life. We talked about our families, work, relationships and current commitments. Somewhere in the middle of our conversation, I said ‘if I were to go back to schoo...

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My father

Posted on: June 15, 2014 |

I had the most pleasant childhood. My father was a mechanical engineer and we followed him to the workshop on campus every now and then. I think I got my flair for engineering from him. At seven, I could change tyres in vehicles and drain spent engin...

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Address it

Posted on: June 8, 2014 |

My Sunday evening took a different turn recently. I had to be at an event on short notice so I didn’t have the luxury of just relaxing in my controlled environment as usual. I hoped to find some kind of calm at the venue but was rudely shocked ...

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What time is it?

Posted on: June 1, 2014 |

It’s evening, the light is fading, but I can still hear the birds. Soon they’ll be asleep, at least most of the ones that make melodies I love to hear in the morning, and that make me feel it’s going to be a pleasant day. I’ll have to wait ti...

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The Refuge

Posted on: May 25, 2014 |

I remember growing up… we played many games with other children in the neighborhood and every once in a while, one of the younger kids would get in trouble with an older and often bigger kid who would then go after the little one in an attempt ...

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Make that plan!

Posted on: May 18, 2014 |

It was going to be a busy Saturday. I had two events to attend in the morning, the kids’ homework was yet to be completed and my hair, yes, my hair needed some attention. The first program was in slots. I was meant to be there from 6-8am but at the...

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Perspective is Key!

Posted on: May 11, 2014 |

Nathan loves his little brother so much that sometimes he forgets to respect his personal space. Some days ago, he went dancing towards Micah to give him a hug and what he got in return was a poke in his left eye. With that eye closed, he came crying...

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The Big Picture

Posted on: May 4, 2014 |

A few days back, my kids asked me to join them in assembling some picture puzzles. I thought it would be a concerted effort but somewhere in the middle of the task, they got distracted by a cartoon on TV and I had to do most of what was left on my ow...

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The Dip

Posted on: April 29, 2014 |

I woke up to the sound of rain drops on my roof. It was quite a downpour. I reluctantly got out of bed and walked to the bathroom. I could hear them chatting excitedly as I prepared for the day. Nathan and Anna were in high spirits; Mummy would let t...

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There’s more!

Posted on: April 27, 2014 |

For most people, receiving gifts and good wishes is a major ingredient in marking a birthday. I’m part of the most. The last time my birthday came around, a friend of mine got me a gift – a cute picture frame with a butterfly built into the top l...

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Posted on: April 21, 2014 |

Driving through Lekki in Lagos, Nigeria, one may be quick to say there’s no land left because there are structures everywhere. At least that’s how it seems from ground level. But when you fly over Lekki, you’ll actually discover there’s a lot...

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The Candle

Posted on: April 13, 2014 |

Months ago, the technician who services the big generator could not be reached and we didn’t want uncertified hands tampering with it. The inverter seemed to be charging but once there was a power failure, it went off. The engineer eventually s...

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Look up!

Posted on: April 6, 2014 |

It was my final year in University – 500 Level, as we called it. Ideally, that would have meant that it was my fifth year but we had been plagued with a few strikes which resulted in our spending an additional year and a few months on the course. T...

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Tiny Braids

Posted on: March 23, 2014 |

Time came again for me to visit my hair dresser. This time, I went on a Saturday – not a very good day to go because of the rush. Most people are free on this day so there’s room for some pampering if it’s a high class salon or if it’s not, t...

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The Warmest Welcome

Posted on: March 16, 2014 |

Tired from a full day of work, I arrived home one evening and was on the way to my room to take off my shoes, drop my handbag and change into something more comfortable but my journey was interrupted by three little people who heard my footsteps and ...

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Posted on: March 9, 2014 |

Taking off from Lagos Murtala Muhammed Airport 2, popularly known as MM2, I looked out the window of the Beechcraft 1900D Aircraft and observed the grass in the nearby fields swaying in the wind – tall blades everywhere. It looked like they were bo...

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Milking Mountains!

Posted on: March 1, 2014 |

What would you do with an entire country of sand? What would you make out of life if you had very little rainfall – so little that most of your landscape is a desert? Well, the possibilities are endless as I have come to discover from my recent vis...

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Created To Create

Posted on: February 16, 2014 |

Today, Nathan saw an ear plug for the first time. He said, ‘mummy, if you eat this what will it taste like’? I said ‘it’s not a sweet’. He said, ‘will it be tasty and yummy and very very nice?’ I said, ‘it’s not a sweet, it’s for ...

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Fear Factor

Posted on: February 8, 2014 |

One thing that often cripples us is fear, and in these times when thanks to social media, our lives can be witnessed by anyone who cares to search, taking new steps and venturing into the unknown is often preceded by the fear of failure. Sometimes I ...

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Hear it, think it… do it!

Posted on: February 2, 2014 |

I assume that most people know that their words are powerful and that what you say goes a long way in determining how your life turns out. This is one of the reasons why positive declarations and statements are very important. People with positive at...

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Turning 70!

Posted on: January 18, 2014 |


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When the heat is on…

Posted on: January 11, 2014 |

Sometimes the pressures are so intense; I wonder how I’ll make it to the end of the day. Sometimes it seems like my load is more than I can bear. I look all around me and I see pressure, pain, struggles, distress, chaos, things falling apart everyw...

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How easy will it be?

Posted on: January 8, 2014 |

I set out to face the new year, full of zeal and optimism. I had already written down some goals to achieve and had a few actions to carry out for each goal. Unfortunately, my first attempt didn’t go well. I sat beside my husband while a footba...

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Better Next Year

Posted on: December 29, 2013 |

Getting to the end of one year, about to begin another. There’s so much to be thankful for – Family, friends, sources of income, new knowledge and skills, experiences that leave one wiser and better equipped to tackle the future, escapes ...

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Always There

Posted on: October 26, 2013 |

Change is always happening. That’s a known fact and we’re all meant to come to terms with and deal with that. However, every now and then, major changes happen that leave us feeling like our world is falling apart, like we are losing our ...

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Use Your Tools

Posted on: October 19, 2013 |

Nathan loves his Sonic Racing game. He’s become a master at it and almost every time, he finishes first, earning points, icons, badges, money and stars. The few times I tried to race with him, I didn’t do so well. In spite of my effort, I...

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Embrace Your Challenge

Posted on: October 19, 2013 |

The average person hates challenges, problems or difficulties of any kind. Most people just want to coast through each day and possibly through life as a whole. It seems that life would be more enjoyable if there were no challenges. Well, I have a di...

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The Red Car

Posted on: October 19, 2013 |

“Mummy, I want to paint a car”, Nathan said. So I picked a clean sheet and a pen and drew a cute car for him to paint. Sure enough, he painted the entire car red, except for the tires which were blue and green. It was a beautiful painting...

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New Beginnings

Posted on: September 29, 2013 |

Many times when we have the desire to begin again, we meet challenges as we set out. The easy way out would be to give up the idea of a new beginning, to decide we are not ready for the change we seek, to convince ourselves that it’s too hard a...

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