The Pot

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The Pot

Published on: January 12, 2019


The festivities were still on. Everyone was joyful and merry. Friends, family, neighbors, strangers – people everywhere… plus our version of winter – Harmattan – which was just beginning to show up. Perfect weather. Christmas holidays are just wonderful. The doorbell rang, and we responded. Two ladies stood there. ‘Hello. Good evening. We’re in the next house for a short stay and we need a big pot to cook with. Can we borrow one of yours? We’ll return it once we’re done.’

In the spirit of good neighborliness, I gave them my biggest pot. A day went by, then two… and then on my way back home one day, I saw someone cleaning out their flat. Sure enough, they were gone! Amazing! I engaged the caretaker and was able to secure the release of my pot. So much for ‘we’ll return it’.

Please tell me. When next a neighbour comes for my pot, knife, or something else, what should I do? Of course, the natural response would be to desist from helping neighbors and probably add a note of advice – you should plan better next time. That would be so unfair to them but hey, shouldn’t I protect myself?

It’s interesting how the action of one person can negatively impact other people in the future. Classic examples – Adam ate the fruit and we’re all still paying for it; a worker commits a fraud and the entire workforce must deal with stricter protocols to get the same job done; a passenger steals from a car and the owner decides never to help stranded people on the road anymore. I remember the serious warnings I received about this one when I first came to Lagos. It must have started with someone’s terrible action.

Hmm… What happened to keeping one’s word, following through with commitments, being honest, truthful and dependable? What happened to loving your neighbour as yourself and doing to others what you would have them do to you? I mean, all they had to do was return the pot. That’s all; but they didn’t. However, I will endeavour to give the next person a fair chance. Worst case, I lose a pot. There are instances, though, where the cost is high, and you must minimize your exposure. Be wise.

Imagine a world where everyone did the right thing all the time… my son says ‘Impossible’. We can at least make the world a better place by doing the right thing today so that our neighbors can respond well to us and to others tomorrow, and life will be a little easier for us all. Also, if you’ve put up walls everywhere because of ill treatment you received in the past, I encourage you to reassess the situation and where you have little or nothing to lose, consider tearing down the walls. We all need each other.

I’ll toast today to a better tomorrow.

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admin wrote: Published on: January 13, 2019

Correct! The right thing is always right. Thanks, Stephen.


Stephen ONYENOBI wrote: Published on: January 13, 2019

Inspirational, though in this age it's not easy but the right thing is always right.....


admin wrote: Published on: January 13, 2019

Thanks for the commendation and for sharing your view.


Samson wrote: Published on: January 13, 2019

Nice write up and kudos to you. In my opinion, it's better to build a bridge around yourself and not a well fence. Bridge gives people access to you without being abused while walls make you inaccessible. Thank you.


admin wrote: Published on: January 13, 2019

Indeed, Mercy. Thanks.


Mercy wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

Very true


admin wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

You are welcome, me-dear! 😇


Uju Jasper wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

I love the write up especially the "reassess" part. Thanks a lot.


admin wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

We’ll become a safe place, like an oasis.


admin wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

And since we can’t change everybody, we start by changing ourselves. Maybe others will feel the vibe and join in. Even if they don’t, at least people will be refreshed when they relate with us.


Kingsley Kj wrote: Published on: January 12, 2019

Hmmmm this... This right here is a hard bone to chew.. I am so use to putting up walls (thick once) just so I protect myself, just so I'm not in that category of people that says 'dem don scam me'. Well, the Nigeria society has made doing the 'right thing' a beautiful mirage that can only be wished for.. But really, what if we all have that mentality of doing the right thing, meaning what we sat and saying what we mean and giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, just maybe the world might be a better place.



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